Yes! I strongly corroborate with word that says “Everything has a price to be paid in life”. As a man I am prone to shortcomings and weakness which explains my imperfections as a whole person. There are some things I wish to achieve in my life but I am not just ready to pay the price even though the only way I can achieve my aim is by paying the price.

Where have you been falling short in life because you haven’t wanted to pay the price ?

One of my shortcoming is the fear of public speaking. I lack the confidence to face people and express my thoughts to them. I don’t really know maybe it was because of my upbringing or maybe it was just because I am introverted. I don’t really like interacting or socializing with people because I always feel uncomfortable around them. As a guy, I do feel sad about this because it is also affecting my academic performance when it comes to making presentations and project defense 😢.

I will never forget when a lecturer told me to answer a question for my group because he heard about how great my grades were. He asked a question and he told me to explain the answer to his question with the intention of making other students learn from my answer.

I walked long way to the stage and I stood on the podium with the hope of delivering my speech by giving an explicit answer to his question. Immediately I faced the crowd, my legs were already shaking.. My heart beat was very fast than the usual, sweat began falling from my fore head, my voice was already shaking and I was just stammering. I was thinking I could just faint or look for a magic that will help me out of that place because I couldn’t bear those faces. I had to tell the lecturer that I didn’t know the answer even though I knew it but I just had the intention of leaving the stage because I couldn’t bear such incident. The lecturer got angry at me and he deducted some marks from our group work which made my group members blamed me for their misfortune with lots of insults 🙁.

After that incident, I had been looking for ways to develop my self confidence when it comes to speaking publicly. I had tried some tips I read online which involves self practice, visualization, and many others. I just had to quit because I was not just improving. I can’t speak confidently with the opposite sex which is sometimes why I run away anytime I come across them for conversation. I never had that confidence to mingle with people. I was always cheated because I couldn’t speak for myself. I couldn’t ask questions on lectures I never understood. I just had to keep playing it safe because I never wanted to make any mistake so that people won’t laugh at me and this never made me pay the price for what I wanted.

As time goes on, I began to watch Tedx Talks and other motivational movies which made me realized that I wasn’t going anywhere in life if I keep up such habit. I am now trying my best with great efforts just to eradicate such a bad habit from my life. I have make up my mind to pay the price now and I hope I will he able to achieve my aim.

In conclusion, my fear of public speaking is one of my shortcomings and I couldn’t eradicate it then because I wasn’t ready to pray pay the price. I am hoping to pay the price now after writing this post and I hope I will be able to achieve this. You can also help me with tips to achieve this if you have once been in my shoes which is the fear of public speaking.

Thanks for reading and I hope this helps.

You can read via my Steemit post with this link https://steemit.com/life/@hardaeborla/pk23hj73w


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  1. Infosion

    Here’s some advice:
    If you have a public speaking get someone in the audience you like or can be sure if look at him he or she will probably definetely smile if you look at him/she or at least not look weird. There’s for sure someone if you think about or just have a brief look if you don’t know the people who will seem more positive to you. Just focus on them if you have to look into the crowd of people. This alone will not make you loose that fear, but this can definitely help you to improve your nervousness. Also don’t just stare them down, but just look at them occasionaly if you feel nervous.
    Think also it helps to understand that talking in front of other people may be the hardest thing to do. It sounds weird but have heard this in lots of cases, that there have been made huge studies on “What is your greatest fear?”. Very often there can be found on #1 “the fear of public speaking”. This ranks usaully higher than “the fear of death” ..! So you don’t have to feel at all ashamed or anything like that, it’s just normal, most of all people think like that.
    It may also sound strange, but it’s probably easier to speak in front of lot of people you don’t know then in front of a small amount of people you know – especially if you know they expect you to answer in a certain way.
    Also I guess you really know a lot. So probably most of the people will know less about the stuff you’re talking about, maybe they are also happy that you explain new things to them or in other words that they finally can understand stuff. The experience you told was probably a bad combination of a lot of things. You just weren’t prepared for this at that moment.
    Think you can simplify it by just saying the more often you do this – or have to do this – you will get better and also see your improvement over the time.
    I also like the TED talks a lot. Just keep them watching and always try to take notes or somehow keep the essence of the talk, there’s great stuff to learn from.
    Hope this could help you a bit, all the best for you in the future!

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  2. Nicholas

    This is the number one “nature law” in our society. So simple, and still, most of the people ignore it, and just thinking, “why happen this or that”, and cant see, what happen, that is the price.

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  3. Zeus69

    Many a year back I had the same problem, my first presentation to +200 people of various professionals. My laptop and notes weren’t displaying as I needed, I panicked for a short period, but then realised that I knew what I was talking about and thats the reason why people came to see my presentation, this automatically put me at ease. The subject matter came to me easily, and it was a success. If that doesn’t work for you imagine everyone in the audience is nude, LOL
    Regards,
    Mark (Zeus69)

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  4. sandwichbill

    I was a bit like you, when I was much younger. I realised that if I spent as much time thinking positively, as I did thinking negatively, I’d be a very confident person. The only way I changed was by facing my fears. It’s hard to do, but I came out the other end, despite the inevitable set backs along the way. Now, I’ve transformed myself into someone that is impervious to injury. I really don’t care what people say and think. I suppose the best way to describe the process is not to cling on to your thoughts that come into your head, while you are in a social situation. Try to wipe them away by distracting your mind with an alternative thought. I think mindfulness teaches a similar thing. Also, I developed a lot of banter and one liners. Everybody should have a bit of banter in their locker, it’s a social lubricant.

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