Are men or women happier? The question is badly asked and is not even useful: science confirms that males and females experience emotions – positive or negative – in a different way.

“Female happiness” (a label useful to simplify the speech) has decreased in the last 30 years, although some recent statistical studies suggest that it reaches its peak in old age, when the pressures associated with family life decrease. Women also run twice as much risk as men of developing depression, but faster to get out of it (as well as more inclined to seek therapeutic help).

MORE TRAVELING. This predisposition is balanced by the fact that in the female gender positive emotions are experienced with greater intensity. Perhaps for reasons linked to evolution, women more easily express joy, closeness, but also fear, all components related to social relationships that, as primary care figures, must cultivate. These emotions (with the exception of rabies) are also more easily shared with others on the verbal level: in general, female happiness is thought to be more related to the relational context than the male one.

OFFENSE? WHO, ME? Some studies confirm that women get higher scores in emotional recognition tasks, social sensitivity and empathy. Those that might seem “advantages” are however counterbalanced by the question of anger.

MORE CONSTANT. Men are more inclined to express it openly and direct it on the person concerned. On the contrary, for women it is not “socially acceptable” to manifest anger in an open way: they therefore tend to internalize it and transform it into ruminating thoughts, a factor which, according to scientists, would contribute to female vulnerability to stress and depression.

Men show greater capacity for problem solving and cognitive flexibility, characteristics that can contribute to a more stable positive mood, less linked to external fluctuations. On the other hand, women struggle to maintain a satisfied and happy state of mind if the social inputs around them do not allow it: they tend more, for example, to make the needs of others a priority than their own, a characteristic that makes them even more prone to resentment and frustration. For men, it is easier to cultivate well-being linked to pleasure and hedonism.

WHAT IT JOINTS. As you can see, the question is complex, and it is even more so if one takes into account the personalities of each one, beyond the far too simplistic generalizations. Despite the differences, the benefits of happiness on mood and health concern everyone without distinction and, importantly, they are nevertheless linked to social relationships, and not just to individuality.

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  1. Nicholas

    Dunno. I think, this question is not complex at all. Actually, this is one of the simplest questions in the world.
    The happiness is not a weird or extraordinary magic, not a “multicomponented project”, what need many outer input.
    Happiness is simple a choice, a decision. I’m just glad with every good moment and happenings and situation, what i get to the life. And the happiness has arrived. Because i made my decision, i accept all the good experiences, and of course, i accept the bad ones too, but that is the hidden noise of life, im not think about so much.

    If you can accept anything, what you get, and see anything, what is good, and you make that good is the priority, thats totally enough.
    And just think about it. We all get many things from life, from other people, all day, every day. We receive stimulation from everywhere. 50% of this is good thing.
    Sh*t, 50% is not enough for happiness? For me, is more than enough.

    1. Paul Oluwanisola

      I think the post is trying to tell us hoeing difficult it is to measure how emotions are experienced in their ordinary natural form between men and women.
      You are looking at it from a choice perspective – a thing which become actualized after years of experience.

      1. Nicholas

        Yep, i understand it, but imho, its just the secondary thing.
        There is no genetically coded “ordinary natural form” in emotions, no men- or women-kind experiences, at least, in the case of secondary ones. And the happiness based on secondary emotions, and all are learnable.
        And we can choose, what to learn.

      2. TRUTH(@i-am)

        I agree with @kriptonik. You are correct @paulo380 for pointing out that Nicolas is coming from a “choice” perspective, but then that is our “natural state”. I feel the perspective of “innate differences in emotional reactions” is also incorrect, for the one innate TRUTH of humans is that we are “learning machines” and all these emotional reactions and forms of behavior are programmed from our cultures. If this were not the case, we would still all be in caves, hunting and gathering with women only as objects of reproduction and property.