I felt the need of publishing this article because I often wonder why people claims to love themselves more than anyone else in the world but yet has less value on their own opinions compared to others opinion.
We often go through life wanting to do something totally discrepant, we all want to follow our passion but 99.9% of people simply can’t do this because they care too much about what people thinks about them. Most people can’t live their lives the way they want simply because they want to keep that images they think people have about them. The obsession on the opinion of others is an impenetrable wall stopping you from maximizing your potentials.
NOW THE BIG QUESTION IS: WHY DO WE CARE SO MUCH ABOUT THE OPINION OF OTHERS THEREBY LIMITING OUR POTENTIALS?
We as humans all have the tendency of giving priority to others opinion because it is built into our DNA. We are all victims of the evolutionary Dichoptic between our vast brain and our instinct. Our brain has goals, dreams and aspirations but those dreams are in most cases forced to remain dreams forever because we give too much priority to what family friends and people we don’t even know thinks about us. You need to acknowledge the fact that these people doesn’t walk with you in your whole life, they will not be with you when you reflect weather you lived a good life or not. The only opinion that should matter is the opinion that you hold of yourself and not the opinion of others.
These people who we are so concerned about their opinions has no idea who you are, what you are doing or why you are doing it.
One of the stepping stone to becoming true to yourself is to gather as much information about yourself, you should be aware of your actions, be aware of how you responds to other people, be aware of how you respond to criticisms and negativity, clearly indicate how much you truly value yourself.
HERE ARE SOME TIPS THAT WILL HELP YOU VALUE YOUR OWN OPINION.
1. Come up with a unique and specific understanding of what you specifically want out of your life. This takes time to perfect and you can’t copy anyone else because life is just like an exam were different people are given question papers containing different questions. Copying someone else’s work will be like giving the right answer to the wrong questions. You must judge every action or thought and see if they align with what you truly want out of your life
2. Tranquility comes when you stop caring about what others think about you: whatever you do or think as long as it align with your personal belief system, then you have a rock solid self-esteem.
with this article, i’m not completely saying you should ignore others opinions, you should learn to pick a particular set of people you listen to in as much as their opinion align with yours. i hope you enjoyed reading this article, don’t forget to leave your own opinions about this topic in the comment section.
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