Almost all of us, if not all have been involved in an argument where all of a sudden, within or after the argument, you realize that the words that are being exchanged are neither promoting the different perspective held nor clarifying the gray part which is the reason for the argument.
Rather, words are used as weapons to attack not just the view but also the person projecting the view, which usually leads to quarrels and possibly a fight.
Our stance on matters we consider delicate, matters that are wrapped up with belief and protectively stored in the secret quarters of our mind even without our knowing until someone comes with a challenge. This stance, most of the times is neither backed by empirically nor scientifically but by a mere subjective opinion that was picked up some time ago by an out-dated understanding and now locked down by a belief system, it becomes nearly impossible to change because we protect it with emotion not logic.
Basically new hurtful experience are usually the only way to bring instant change to such stance but open-mindedness can help too on if we chose to wear the open-minded hat.
I will be explaining open mindedness with the teachings of Sir Edward de borno on thinking techniques. If you find yourself always pushed to anger when your belief is threatened, then is for you.
In no particularly order, I will explain the six thinking techniques and am sure you will find your favorite thinking hat or a couple of thinking hats you are familiar with.
I call the red hat, blooding hat because it always prompt the person wearing this hat to make emotional decision. The red hat puts you in a state of feeling i.e. it allow you put yourself in other people’s shoes and try to envision what they are going through.
Sharing, caring, hating and loving are expressed through the red hat thought process.
This hat deals with open mindedness as it is only interested in facts, not opinions or suggestions but information that spun from proven facts. Although, opinions and suggestions are evaluated objectively, before making decision. With this hat on, you will view information from an unbiased standpoint and from a state where notions are objectively and logically evaluated.
I call the guy, the pessimist as he is always seeing things from the perspective of impossibility and fault oriented. To the black hat the cup is always half full and cannot change my mind period. Sometimes it is hard to see the positive in the negative but the black hat has it positive side and we will find out as we move on.
The yellow hat is the opposite of the black hat, this hat is of the optimistic perspective, positively exploring the possibility of an outcome. To the yellow hat, the cup is half full. This is the guy who tells you, you can do it when the odds are against you, believing in you when other rejects you and adding to your ideas in trying to make the idea a success.
This is Michael Scofield if you have seen Prison Break. This guy is always creative; he takes ideas and brings something new out of it. This guy is the out of the box thinker or more accurately he thinks without the box in bringing and digging up ideas and concept that keeps everyone amazed and surprised.
This hat is used to manage all other thinking hat, to ensure they work and contributed collective ideas for the success and proper execution of the main idea.
In becoming open minded through the powerful concept of thinking techniques, the first thing to note is that none of the thinking hat is bad but when used in isolation without checkmating with other thought process, the result is a faulty thought process, close mindedness and a naive stance.
Open mindedness is your ability to objectively view an idea without taking any judgement position mentally or otherwise because of tradition, belief or emotion. The six thinking techniques will help you view things from different perspective and ease the decision making process, making the decision made the most likely the best.